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Promoting Responsibility Newsletter - December 2001


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Vol. 1, No 5
December, 2001


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IN THIS ISSUE:

 1. Welcome

 2. Promoting Responsibility

 3. Increasing Effectiveness

 4. Improving Relationships

 5. Your Questions Answered

 6. TEACHERS.NET

 7. Public Seminars

 8. What others are saying about the book:
"DISCIPLINE WITHOUT STRESS, PUNISHMENTS or REWARDS
How Teachers and Parents Promote Responsibility & Learning"

 9. About this Newsletter


1. WELCOME

As the year draws to a close (already!), it seems fitting to conclude this "decade of the brain" -- or was that the last decade? -- with some thoughts that promote learning.

Marian Diamond is an internationally known neuroscientist who has studied mammalian brains for decades. Dr. Diamond is the author of "Magic Trees of the Mind: How to Nurture Your Child's Intelligence, Creativity, and Healthy Emotions from Birth through Adolescence."

Her recipe for enriching the brain to increase academic success heavily relies on nurturing the uniqueness of each brain in a caring environment.

Her studies have shown that an enriched environment includes:

1. Setting the stage for enriching the cortex by first providing a steady source of positive emotional support -- which includes encouragement and tender loving care. (The emotional brain is older than the analytical brain.)

2. Providing a nutritious diet with enough proteins, vitamins, minerals, and calories.

3. Stimulating all the senses -- but not necessarily all at the same time.

4. Having an atmosphere free of undue pressure and stress but suffused with a degree of pleasurable intensity.

5. Presenting a series of novel challenges that are neither too easy nor too difficult for the young person at his or her stage of development.

6. Allowing for social interaction for a significant percentage of the activities. There is no doubt that peers are intrigued with and enjoy each other.

7. Promoting the development of a broad range of skills and interests that are mental, physical, aesthetic, social, and emotional.

8. Giving opportunities to choose many of his or her own activities. Each brain is unique. Allow that uniqueness to develop.

9. Offering opportunities to assess the results of his or her efforts and to modify them. As a child builds a sandcastle and admires its construction before a big wave destroys it, the youngster needs to learn to start over and resculpt.

10. Providing an enjoyable atmosphere that promotes exploration and fun of learning.

11. Promoting active participation, rather than passive observation.

As studies of learning have shown, the brain needs time to relate new information to existing associations. Students need time to reflect -- to think about what is happening.

As we reflect upon this fading year, may you look upon it as a positive one, a year where good choices were made, and reflect -- so that next year will continue and/or improve upon what we have learned during this one.

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2. PROMOTING RESPONSIBILITY

Young people know little of the travails that their parents once faced as everyday experiences -- be it the two-mile walk to school, the shoveling out of the ashes from the apartment buildingÕs furnace, or spending a summer painting the longest picket fence ever built. Their idea of a hard time is when their parents aren't home to provide dinner, and they have to make their own.

I once worried about their perspective until someone told me that you can never make your kids truly appreciate your experiences. They will never know what your experiences really were like. Don't even try to make that happen.

That was good advice.

There really is no need to remind young people of how much harder it may have been for us. They only know their own experiences.

And if we stop to reflect, we probably had it easier than our parents.

Long ago I stopped saying, "When I was young," and "You do not realize how easy you have it." What my wife and I did instead was to concentrate on providing the values that we hold dear, values that would stand in good times or bad.

I am referring to values reminiscent of the classical virtues, namely, qualities of character. The four classical virtues of prudence, temperance, justice, and fortitude -- as old as Aristotle -- are just as compelling today.

Prudence is practical wisdom -- recognizing and making the right choices.

Temperance involves much more than moderation in all things. It is the control of human passions and emotions, especially anger and frustration.

Fortitude is courage in pursuit of the right path, despite the risks. It is the strength of mind and courage to persevere in the face of adversity.

Justice, in the classical sense, includes fairness, honesty, and keeping promises.

I have come to the conclusion that the best we can do is pass on the wisdom of former generations. Our children will then be in a position to take care of themselves -- as you and I have.

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3. INCREASING EFFECTIVENESS

We often are not conscious of the power of our communications.

The words and phrases we use in our daily interactions have three major influences:

(1) They influence how we think and experience the world,

(2) They shape the way others see us, and

(3) They determine how much cooperation and success we have with other people.

A prime reason is that what we say doesn't just go out of our mouths to others' ears; we hear them, too.

We can use words which are landmines and which will blow up our odds of getting cooperation, or we can be persuasive in a positive way. For example, if I introduce a phrase with the word, "unfortunately," it conjures up that something bad will follow. I have communicated in such a way that it prompts you to set up a negative mindset. What I say after, "unfortunately," will support your inference.

The key is to accentuate the positive. When thoughts are guided to focus on the positive and constructive, then the self is nourished and enriched. A monkey is smart enough to eat only the nourishing banana and throw away the bitter peel. Yet, humans often "chew on the peel" of negatives. Negative thoughts and words affect us in the ways listed above.

The following short tale will help you focus on the positive so that you will think this way, will shape how others see you, and will influence how much cooperation and success you have with other people.

A salesgirl in a candy store always had customers lined up waiting while other salesgirls stood around. The owner of the store noted her popularity and asked for her secret. "It's easy," she said. "The other girls scoop up more than a pound of candy and then start subtracting some."

She continued, "I always scoop up less than a pound and then add to it."

People are like magnets. They are drawn to the positive and are repelled by the negative.

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4. IMPROVING RELATIONSHIPS

Dianne Capell, a teacher-friend of mine in Italy, forwarded the following to me. It seems appropriate to share it at this time of the year -- as she suggested.

If you want to make a difference, recall the following:

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest.
4. Name five people who have won a Nobel or Pulitzer prize.
5. Name the last half-dozen Academy Award winners for best actor (female and male)
6. Name five of the last decade's World Series winners.

How did you do?

The point is that none of us remembers the headliners of yesterday. Notice that these are not second-rate achievers. They're the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Now, here is another quiz. See how you do on this one.

1. Name five teachers who aided your journey through your formal education.
2. Name five people who have helped you through difficult times.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of five people who have prompted you to feel appreciated or special.
5. Think of five people with whom you enjoy spending time.
6. Name five people whose experiences have inspired you.

Easier?

The lesson?

The people who make a difference in your life aren't the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They're the ones who care.

Share this with someone you care about.

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5. YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED

Question:

I'm a teacher at a suburban Atlanta charter high school. As a member of the Discipline Committee for the high school, I am involved in the rethinking/restructuring of our discipline system and, of course, you and your program have come to our attention.

We have perused the "Quick Explanation" on your "Summary" link of your webs site and have ordered your book. We are very interested in the "Raise Responsibility System."

We have considered having posters with the A, B, C, D concepts printed for every classroom. However, several of us are concerned that these may come across as too juvenile for high school students. We suspect that these concerns will be addressed in your book when it arrives, but in the meantime can you allay these concerns or clarify how we might present the concepts to older students?

Response:

The RAISE RESPONSIBILITY SYSTEM is the subject of the third chapter. It shows how the A, B, C, D levels separate the student from behavior -- thereby negating the need for a student to self-defend, which so often is the start of an adversarial dialogue.

Since some high school students are attracted to the idea of anarchy, level A needs to be made personal. Discussions are the key. First, have students describe some situations which would occur when there is no law or order. The discussion will conjure up examples where some would steal and bully others. Anarchy generally suggests doing what you want without regard to others.

Then, make it personal. Ask how students would like it if there were no laws, no judicial system, and no executive department. "If someone stole something from you or bullied you and there were no laws against it, no system of justice, and no police to protect you, how would you like it?"

When anarchy is personalized it quickly loses its appeal.

For level B, Bullying/Bothering -- making one's own rules -- discuss how people feel when others push them around.

For level C, talk about peer pressure and why we do things because we want to belong -- even though we know that sometimes what the group is doing is neither good for them nor for us.

Understanding external motivation, level C -- and being able to recognize when peer pressure stimulates them to do something -- is empowering. Having a way to articulate the concept allows young people to resist the power and persuasiveness of peer pressure.

For level D, discuss what has given them the greatest satisfaction of anything they have ever done. The answer will always come to some personal satisfaction through effort, rather than someoneÕs telling them to do something.

Understanding internal motivation, level D, and taking the initiative to do the right thing brings feelings of satisfaction and internal rewards that level C can never duplicate.

It is the teaching of these concepts of levels of social development that is the basis and sets the foundation for the "Raise Responsibility System."

In terms of the direction, maturation, and satisfaction of your students' lives, their having a way to recognize and differentiate differences between internal and "external" motivation may be one of the more important learnings your students will ever be given.

Regarding bulletin boards for your high school students: (1) Post the vocabulary in a hierarchical order with "Anarchy" at the bottom and "Democracy" on top. On a personal note to show the effect of daily viewing, I am a graduate of Hollywood High School where every day I saw the school's motto, "Achieve the Honorable." How does one forget something seen every day for three years? (2) Post questions which are reflective and self-evaluative, e.g., "Is what you are doing helping get your task done?" "Are you pleased with your effort?" "Is what you have done quality work?"

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6. TEACHERS.NET

If you are a teacher, read the Gazettte at teachers.net, and bookmark this website: http://teachers.net.

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8. WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING ABOUT THE BOOK:

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